Behavioral intelligence for neurodiverse families
Raising kids takes a village. Lumi gives everyone in it a plan.
Strategies built for how each person in your child’s life actually works — mom, dad, sibling, grandparent. In the moment. When it counts.
Sound familiar?
Three reasons the current plan isn’t working — and none of them are you
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The strategies were real.
They just weren't yours.
Checklists taped to the door. Reward charts on the fridge. Timers, warnings, sensory tools, visual schedules — you've tried them all. Some worked for a week. Most were abandoned. Not because they were wrong, but because they were designed for a generic child — not for the specific way your child's brain processes time, transitions, and frustration. When the strategy doesn't match the wiring, effort doesn't matter.
“We'd do what was suggested and it just... didn't land. And you start to wonder if it's you.”
From our parent interviews
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One parent carries it all.
And it's crushing them.
One of you became the expert — the one who reads the books, talks to the therapists, adjusts the strategies in real time. The other parent tries, but doesn't have the same instinct. When the expert is depleted, sick, traveling, or just done — the whole system collapses. It's not a knowledge problem. It's a single point of failure no family should have to live with.
“When I was out, things were dropped or forgotten. I was in charge of the reminder checklist too.”
From our parent interviews
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The real gap isn't knowledge.
It's what happens at 6:45 AM.
You've read the books. You've sat through the sessions. You understand working memory, emotional regulation, flexible thinking. But when your child is melting down and you're already late and the other one needs breakfast and you haven't slept — all that knowledge disappears. The gap was never information. It's having the right strategy surface at the exact moment you're too depleted to think of it yourself.
“I just dove right into all the research. But actually practicing the strategies day to day — I just don't do it. I don't remember.”
From our parent interviews
The problem was never your parenting.
It’s treating a multi-player problem with single-player solutions.
Relational intelligence
Same child. Every relationship. A different plan.
Lumi doesn’t just understand your child. It understands the unique dynamic between your child and each person in their life — and builds guidance for every pairing.
Mom at pickup
Validate the overwhelm first — "I can see today was a lot." Wait 90 seconds before any logistics. Her working memory is depleted after a full school day; transition through the car ride with a predictable sensory anchor (favorite song, cold water bottle). Save questions about homework for after a 20-minute decompress window at home.
Now multiply that across every professional in their life.
When a teacher emails asking what works, you don’t scramble. Lumi gives you the precise insight to share — calibrated to what actually works for your child.
Teacher→Dad
“Emma's tuning out during small group work — any setup at home that gets her engaged?”
“Groups are hard for her when she can't read all the social dynamics at once. Try pairing her with one familiar classmate. Her engagement flips when she trusts her partner — the work stops competing with the social uncertainty.”
Every person in your child’s life wants to help. Now, they’ll know exactly how.
Lumi is in early access with a small group of families.
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How it works
Not a chatbot. Infrastructure for your whole family.
Lumi builds a shared system — one that gives every person in your child’s life their own plan, keeps them all working from the same picture, and runs whether anyone thinks to open it or not.
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Start with a deep model of each child
Before Lumi can coach anyone, it needs to understand who it's coaching around. Each child in your family gets a detailed profile — scored across executive function domains like working memory, emotional control, and cognitive flexibility. Lumi uses this as the foundation for everything: every strategy it recommends, every checklist it generates, every plan it builds. It updates over time as your family uses it. This isn't a static assessment — it's a living map of how your child's brain works.
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Then it maps how each pairing actually works
Lumi doesn't just know your child in isolation — it maps the relationship. When it compares Dad's direct communication style with your child's working memory limits, it can see exactly where friction emerges and where Dad's natural strengths can actually help. When it looks at Mom's dynamic, it sees something different. That conversation you see isn't a generic AI chat — Lumi is surfacing the specific patterns in a relationship to build guidance that only makes sense for that pairing.
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The right plan reaches the right person
When Dad opens Lumi at 8:47 PM, he doesn't get generic sleep hygiene advice. He gets a step-by-step plan built for how he and your child specifically work together at bedtime — the exact language, timing, and techniques calibrated to their relationship. When Grandma has him on Saturday, she gets her Saturday approach. The guidance is always contextual, relational, and named — not a list of tips, but a playbook for this person with this child right now.
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Every week, it tells you what it all means
Every Monday, everyone in your child's life gets their personalized briefing — not data, but meaning. When after-school transitions kept breaking down, the brief named the real reason: your child's working memory nearly four times lower than the parent trying to reach him with words. Every 'why aren't you listening' — a collision no one had named. Lumi connects those dots every week, without being asked.
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Infrastructure that runs whether you ask or not
Shared calendars, visual checklists, and routines that your child uses directly. When soccer practice is on the calendar, Lumi has already thought about the transition home. Click it and find the linked strategy, the prep checklist, the co-regulation reminder. This isn't reactive. It's a system that anticipates the hard moments before they arrive — and makes sure every person in your child's life is ready for them.
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Every relationship is different. Choose one that feels like yours and watch Lumi adapt.
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This is 60 seconds of what Lumi does every day.
With your real family profiles, it goes deeper — and grows with you.
In their words
The Families Guiding Us
“It’s hard to keep the systems in play. Honestly, I don’t remember if we stopped because it wasn’t working or because it’s just hard to keep the systems in play.”
Aaron
Father of two · Daughter (5) with ADHD · New York
“I can learn all the dialectics. But actually practicing them in my day to day — I just don’t do it. I don’t remember to do it.”
Emily
Mother of two · Both sons on the autism spectrum (2E) · New York
“This is the exact speech, almost verbatim, that I’ve heard from my wife — and she’s spent years figuring this out.”
Jason
Father of three · Son (11) with ADHD + dysgraphia · New York
“We’re not trying to fix him. There’s nothing we’re trying to fix. We’re trying to make him the best he can be.”
EJ
Mother of two · Son (10) with ADHD + giftedness · Sydney, Australia
“This is something that deserves to exist in the world, and I want to support that.”
Javier
Father · Son on the autism spectrum · Beta user & investor · New York
We built Lumi because I was terrified my son would grow up wanting to get as far away from me as possible. We were fighting every morning, homework session, and transition despite years of therapy and a shelf full of books.
Six months later, he was holding my hand and hugging me more than ever. With Lumi, we finally found a way to work together and truly understand each other. We found our way, not the way, and we’re committed to helping every struggling family find theirs.
Michael Caton
Co-Founder, CEO & Father of two · Son (10) with ADHD · New York
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